Find a Cause…..

A goal of mine since 2005 has been to walk or volunteer for a cause. There are people out there who need money raised for rehabilitation and/or research for their illness or disability. I’ve learned to be extremly thankful for where I am today. You do not have to be rich or a celebrity to do good for others. I have participated in 2 fundraisers in the last year and each fundraiser was successful, fun and for a very worthy cause.

On Sunday, May 3, 2009 I joined more than 16,000 walkers and volunteers across Illinois in the Walk MS 2009. The money raised at the Walk MS 2009 supports programs, services and vital research into the cause and cure of multiple sclerosis.

It was such a rewarding experience. When I was first asked to pick a goal of how much I thought I could raise, I entered $200 Continue reading

You Can’t Change Him or Her…

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My ex brought out the worst in me. In his defense, I was also a nut-job when I dated him. I was insecure and brought out the worst in him too. We weren’t right for each other, but we still spent 5 years trying to change each other. Towards the end of our relationship, it just wasn’t there anymore. Not only was I growing up, but it was an “a-ha” moment for me (Oprah reference). The ex was not the person who I was supposed to end up with….and it wasn’t because he was mean or a jerk; it was because I couldn’t change him and he couldn’t change me.We weren’t ourselves with each other, we didn’t like who the other person was. It sounds harsh, but I didn’t think he was evil or anything. Granted, we went through some pretty f-ed up times and he hurt me a lot (and I hurt him too). I think, looking back….that we were both responsible for those times. We were young…and when it was all said and done, I learned a great lesson.

I spent 5 years with someone during an important time of growth. From 15-20 years old, I was hiding the real me to please someone else.   I ditched out on girls night out, family time, highschool activities, concerts, dating other boys because Continue reading

Hi Hater!!

Got to put up some quick thoughts about people hatin’…..

You all know what I’m talking about: Girls HATIN’ on Girls. It gets vicious. Hatin’ is when you dislike someone because of your own jealousy. I bet you’ve been hated on before. I used to hate on people and people used to hate on me. As I get older, I have a better view on the subject. You get to a certain point in your life where you accept others for WHO THEY ARE! I really try to live by, “treat others as you would want to be treated.” We all make mistakes, but there is never a better time then NOW to start being more positive and confident in yourself.

Let me give you an example of something: Jill is a college graduate, volunteers with charities, has many friends, she has a nice figure and she wears revealing clothes. All the guys think she is hot, but she only has eyes for her boyfriend of 2 years. Now here comes Jane. Jane is not happy with her body, her boyfriend OR her job. Jane meets Jill through a mutual friend and after one look of Jill’s low cut shirt, Jane whispers to her boyfriend, “DID YOU SEE THAT WHORE?” Continue reading